Relationships in general are all important. In this blog you will learn about personal and professional relationship building, how to set healthy boundaries, choosing your tribe wisely, and tips on how to deepen any relationship.
The difference between an intimate relationship and any other relationship is really just the intimacy part. And the truth is that in business, people only want to work with you if they have some sort of connection with you – so establishing any level of friendship is ideal!
First of all, it's best to treat everyone with the same principles – respect, be yourself (people can tell if you are being a fake), and take the time to nurture the relationship! We all have the same 24 hours in a day, so make it a priority to take the time to connect with your people! This says a lot about you and it definitely goes a long way, especially if you are a busy person to begin with.
They say that you are the combination of the 5 most prominent people in your life. It is so important to surround yourself with those who inspire you, help you grow, support you and love you unconditionally. All relationships have an impact on our professional and personal lives...so choose wisely who you spend time with!
It’s important to decide what kind of a relationship you want to have with certain individuals, especially those who you are in your life not because of choice. Here are some examples of what I mean:
Co-parenting relationships can be draining and sometimes even confusing. Make a decision that if something has nothing to do with the child(ren) then it has nothing to do with you, and it’s not needed or necessary.
Let’s face it, we all have that one family member, friend or colleague that can consistently feel like they suck the life out of you, trigger you, create added drama or even completely just make u sad….. So decide what kind of a relationship you want with this individual.
This is what I would like to call “shield-yourself and keep your distance” kind of relationship. Literally imagine a shield when you are talking to them! Remind yourself to not give away your power – when you get upset, you are giving away energy, aka your power. This is an opportunity to help you build the muscle of owning yourself and your emotions by being in control of yourself! These kinds of people are great practice for that, and some added advice: try to stay focused on what you do respect about them.
Some people inspire us to grow and expand ourselves, while others help us tap into our fun and creative side, which is needed for balance - we are not all one way! There are many sides of us and it’s important to explore and have awareness of all our sides.
Relationships serve a purpose, it’s important to acknowledge them all and ask ourselves; “How is this relationship serving me?” or “What can I learn from this?”.
In my opinion, intimate relationships have the most impact on a person. This is where you get to grow the most as individuals, and together as partners. If you are married, never put anything as a priority about your spouse, kids, or your business! Your spouse is and should always be 1st on your list - but it’s also important to make sure that they KNOW and FEEL that. If you are single, choose wisely! This person should inspire you, influence you to do better, want to help you succeed even just by their encouragement, and you should feel that no matter what - they got your back!
Friendships, colleagues, family members, partners, spouses, are all important relationships. These are the people in our circle, our tribe. We are either influencing others or we are being influenced. Who are the 5 people you consistently talk to? PAY ATTENTION! How are these relationships serving you? How do you also contribute to their lives? If you don’t have 5 people that contribute to your life in a positive way, then go find them! Join groups, clubs etc - it's THAT important!
Here are 5 ways you can help deepen any type of relationship; business or personal.
1) Presence: Listen beyond what is being said. Learn to FEEL what they are saying (or not saying).
2) Communicate: Communication really IS key! Don’t hold back from saying something you want to say. Learn to communicate what you need and what you will not tolerate.
3) Decide: Make a decision what kind of a relationship you want to have with an individual, and spend your time wisely.
4) Clarity: Never assume anything - it’s always best to ask! This also goes both ways when communicating, so make sure that you are also being clear.
5) Know the intention: When you get to know someone you start to learn their communication and personality style so you are able to understand them better. If they say something that grabbed you by surprise or perhaps threw you off – remember who they are and try to give the context a meaning that serves you, especially if it's someone that loves you.
Ultimately, no matter what kind of relationships you have, it’s important to be respectful, decide what kind of relationship you want, set healthy boundaries for yourself, and grow from each experience.
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Rosa Osterling Success Coach